"Gosh, yes, I do believe that this happens all the time. People are constantly hurting the folks they love the most- by suffocating them with attention, or by not giving them the freedom to grow up and learn who they are, or by thinking they know what's the best for the other person and realizing too late this wasn't the case. There are a million and one examples of relationships that have been smothered by too much love, rather than too little. I'd say that love becomes harmful when you keep telling yourself that you've put your loved one first...but in reality, everything you do and say is really about you, and your own fear of being left behind or lost."
Jodi Picoult